Recently, I was in RENO, NV speaking to a very successful group of Realtors from all over the country, put together by REMG (Real Estate Masters Guild). My topic was, "Peace amid Chaos"!
Wouldn't you agree that there is too much chaos today? Job pressure, declining stock market and home values, news & events around the world, traffic issues, lost deals, health challenges, etc etc etc - we struggle with many issues daily. And the fact is that we can't change any of them, except ONE! And what is that ONE change? Change 'OURSELVES' and all changes. Look at the situation differently and it all changes. Otherwise, lack of peace is a normal thing today. No wonder anti-depressants sell like hot cakes. We pay so much attention to outside (to things we can't control), we forget going inside (where the real world for us starts).
Here is a 'Dirty dozen', no no let's call it 'Valuable Dozen', that must be remembered all the time. If we can follow these, peace becomes a more natural thing in our lives! Till then, our outside world takes over.
Do you know what is that one thing that takes away our peace? Write it down and then analyse it. You will see that it was due to a WANT that is or was not fulfilled. Our never ending WANTS are a major reason for our problems. We want this, we want that. And the minute we get it, we want more. We want bigger, we want more recent model, our wants simply grow, leading to dissatisfaction. Reduce these wants and all changes. The following tips help us do just that.
Tip 1. Be in gratitude mode. Thank God for everything at all times, for what we have and for what we don't. HE knows what's best for us, accept that 1000%.
Tip 2. Take care of your health. Bad health doesn't let us focus on the right things. Eat right, meditate, exercise.
Tip 3. Be detached from results. Take action but leave the results to GOD! Remember, HE knows what is right for us even though it may not appear that way at times. Just like a mom who gives the child a bad tasting medicine but only does it for the welfare of the child. The child cries, the child complains, the child thinks that mom doesn't care. Does the mom know what is best for the child, does the mom really care? You bet!
Tip 4. Be happy with the success of others. It's amazing how many people are less upset with their failure and more upset with success of others. They can't wait for them to fail. This is seen even in friends. Be happy with everyone's success!
Tip 5. Spend below your means. Save for rainy days. Don't buy things you don't need.
Tip 6. Live in the present moment. We are either unhappy about what happened in the past or worried about what will happen in the future. Live the 'TODAY' well!
Tip 7. Keep the right company. Say NO when the actions go against your principles, regardless of the potential benefits. A drink just to give the company is wrong, avoid it!
Tip 8. Live your life with honesty and integrity. You will never have to remember what you said when you are honest at all times.
Tip 9. Don't hurt anyone. Help others grow. What goes around, comes around. But do it without expecting anything in return.
Tip 10. Give and you shall receive. Again, give without intentions of getting back. It will come automatically.
Tip 11. Know that we are mere actors in a movie, this movie called THE WORLD. Our role was decided by the Creator before he chose us to play it. Play it well but know that the role is already decided.
Tip 12. Read Tip #1. Remember tip #1. Put in action tip #1. Never forget tip #1.
And now the final tip. You say, "wait, 12 tips are already over, what do I mean by the final tip?" Yes, there is one more. And the final tip, tip # 13 is - ALWAYS GIVE MORE THAN YOU PROMISE. I promised 12, but if I stop there, I lose. Over promise and under deliver is cheating. Under promise and over deliver is good but it started low to begin with. Over promise and then over deliver is the way to live life.
As you can see, these are few liners to avoid long blog. I will be happy to share more with you in detail, just write back. Better yet, arrange a seminar for a group for about 3 hours, and even better yet, a full day or two so that we can make sure that these just don't become words, we make them a practice in our daily life.
Oh by the way, I need to admit something here. Please know that these are fantastic tips and can change our life. But know that I am equally struggling, as you are, to implement these at all times. Please don't beleive for one moment that if I gave these tips to you, I follow them at all times. I am as human as you are, and I make my mistakes too. I forget these tips at times too. I am far from perfect myself. These help me but I mess up too. Don't be too hard on yourself if you don't follow these at all times. If we can implement them most of the time, we will be way ahead of the game. Being aware is the first step, implementing them often is the next, and working towards making these and more become part of us at all times is the real desire and a true test.
So that is my desirable dozen, or 13, whatever you want to call it. Put them in your life daily and the peace will become automatic. And I am not talking about outside pretend happy peace. I am talking of peace within. Follow these (& there are few more, some are in my book, some not) and the anti depressants won't be necessary in most cases. Ofcourse, at times it may be too late if these are not put in place at the right time. These tips are to stop depression, not a substitute for anti-depressant when the depression has already kicked in.
Know of any groups that can benefit from a half day or a full day seminar or perhaps a two day workshop, an action filled event that leads to results, not just an applause? I am there to help and it will come with 100% money back guarantee! If it is for non-profit that helps our kids, there is no cost at all for the seminar. It would be my pleasure to make a difference in the lives of our future generation!
God bless. Dream Big & May All Your Worthy Dreams Come TRUE!
Sanjeev Aneja
www.sanjeevaneja.com
email: sanjeev@ontrackrealty.com
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Thursday, October 20, 2011
Monday, June 20, 2011
Ahh, Destiny!
Destiny & destination are the same thing. Understand it, and we will realize that our destiny drives our actions. If it is not meant for us, the actions will support that. If it is meant for us, the actions will support that too!
Let's talk about destination first. The plane has to reach Los Angeles. No action can be taken unless that part is decided, agreed? And the pilot makes all adjustments on his way as needed to get there. The destination controls the action. I have never ever heard of a pilot who starts flying a plane in hopes of reaching LA. It is destination first. If we said action creates destination, people would laugh, right?
Now let's talk about destiny! We say our actions make our destiny. Yet this is far from true, it only appears that way. Just as water seems to be there on the desert but get closer and there is none. Appearance makes it look so, that's all.
Our destiny is decided even before we are born. Someone is born at a billionaire's home, someone at a poor person's home who can't even feed the child. Action or destiny? What action could have this child taken to be born rich? None!
Dying from lung cancer is destined. A person smokes and smokes and when you tell them it is not good for them, they argue and continue to smoke. We say the action caused cancer. How about the inaction (not quitting smoking) caused cancer?
10 people apply for the job, all are equally qualified, one gets it. Why? All took action, what happened? The one who took the job was sent to Europe for a job assignment. The plane crashes, he dies. Was it the destiny that got him the job? Was it the destiny of any one of 9 others that saved them their life because of no job in that company? You bet destiny played the main role!
Many of our actions lead to disasters later, and that includes technology today. We are so afraid of hackers shutting down the power grid, hackers killing masses by stealing passwords of nuclear system. So why not stop use of technology? We laugh at that thought. Destiny ruling!
The examples of destiny are in abundance, all we have to do it sit back and realize this BIG fact. Once we do, all else becomes simple, life becomes stress free. But our EGO comes in our way! If our actions controlled our destiny, every candidate running for President's office should be the President, right? Yet someone from nowhere comes and wins and the sure shot expected winner loses. Why? Why? Why?
The biggest question of all then is, "Should we stop taking actions"? The biggest answer is, "your destiny won't let you stop".
It's not our actions that create our destiny, it's our destiny that creates our actions! I know this is a topic that is full of debate and disagreements. It's like chicken or egg first question with no answer. And this article is not something that will change anyone's viewpoint. It is simply there as another way of thinking. Right, wrong, indifferent, you conclude as you wish!
Sanjeev Aneja, CRS
sanjeev@ontrackrealty.com
www.sanjeevaneja.com
Let's talk about destination first. The plane has to reach Los Angeles. No action can be taken unless that part is decided, agreed? And the pilot makes all adjustments on his way as needed to get there. The destination controls the action. I have never ever heard of a pilot who starts flying a plane in hopes of reaching LA. It is destination first. If we said action creates destination, people would laugh, right?
Now let's talk about destiny! We say our actions make our destiny. Yet this is far from true, it only appears that way. Just as water seems to be there on the desert but get closer and there is none. Appearance makes it look so, that's all.
Our destiny is decided even before we are born. Someone is born at a billionaire's home, someone at a poor person's home who can't even feed the child. Action or destiny? What action could have this child taken to be born rich? None!
Dying from lung cancer is destined. A person smokes and smokes and when you tell them it is not good for them, they argue and continue to smoke. We say the action caused cancer. How about the inaction (not quitting smoking) caused cancer?
10 people apply for the job, all are equally qualified, one gets it. Why? All took action, what happened? The one who took the job was sent to Europe for a job assignment. The plane crashes, he dies. Was it the destiny that got him the job? Was it the destiny of any one of 9 others that saved them their life because of no job in that company? You bet destiny played the main role!
Many of our actions lead to disasters later, and that includes technology today. We are so afraid of hackers shutting down the power grid, hackers killing masses by stealing passwords of nuclear system. So why not stop use of technology? We laugh at that thought. Destiny ruling!
The examples of destiny are in abundance, all we have to do it sit back and realize this BIG fact. Once we do, all else becomes simple, life becomes stress free. But our EGO comes in our way! If our actions controlled our destiny, every candidate running for President's office should be the President, right? Yet someone from nowhere comes and wins and the sure shot expected winner loses. Why? Why? Why?
The biggest question of all then is, "Should we stop taking actions"? The biggest answer is, "your destiny won't let you stop".
It's not our actions that create our destiny, it's our destiny that creates our actions! I know this is a topic that is full of debate and disagreements. It's like chicken or egg first question with no answer. And this article is not something that will change anyone's viewpoint. It is simply there as another way of thinking. Right, wrong, indifferent, you conclude as you wish!
Sanjeev Aneja, CRS
sanjeev@ontrackrealty.com
www.sanjeevaneja.com
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Less vs Loss
Change a vowel and everything changes in a word. Less & Loss, only one letter changes but it changes the whole meaning.
Appetite becomes less, it's OK. One can survive on less food. Appetite is lost, one can die of hunger!
'Less' one can cope with, 'Loss' almost always results in huge stress for most people. Unless ofcourse one thing happens - and that is - it is put in perspective.
Let's see if this example drives home the point.
You go to Atlantic City (not promoting gambling, simply an example) and bet $10. Right number, and it becomes $100. You love it. You bet all $100, and it becomes $1,000. You are loving it and decide to go for it all again. And guess what, you hit it again and this becomes $100,000 now. You know you are unstoppable. And the greed has set in too. You bet it all, one last time. Oh no, it's down to $0, BIG FAT ZERO!
How much money have you lost? Most would say, $100,000. And they will be upset for a long time about it. Why? Because they LOST it, the LOSS was BIG! But some would say that it is OK. They have $10 less now, that's all. How big is the loss to them? $10? No big deal.
While many of us are very smart to get this and many of us will only call it $10 less in this example, that is not how we deal with it in the real life. And that is why the stress takes over.
Check right now to figure out why you are stressed and you will see that it is over some PERCEIVED loss (even though you are much better off than before). Use this Atlantic City example often for every LOSS and the stress will be gone every time.
You lose a sale. Call it one sale less
You lose your job. You didn't have it before. And you can get another with LESSER money anyhow.
You lose some salespeople in you office. You still have more than you started with.
You lose money in stock market. OK, OK, you got the point.
This applies to every scenario and you have a choice - is it LESS or LOSS?
Making sense? See it as a loss, and the stress will result into a disease. See it as less, and while the circumstances won't change, the outlook will and so will the results.
The change starts with self. So this story/lesson must be remembered by me too all the time :)).
Appetite becomes less, it's OK. One can survive on less food. Appetite is lost, one can die of hunger!
'Less' one can cope with, 'Loss' almost always results in huge stress for most people. Unless ofcourse one thing happens - and that is - it is put in perspective.
Let's see if this example drives home the point.
You go to Atlantic City (not promoting gambling, simply an example) and bet $10. Right number, and it becomes $100. You love it. You bet all $100, and it becomes $1,000. You are loving it and decide to go for it all again. And guess what, you hit it again and this becomes $100,000 now. You know you are unstoppable. And the greed has set in too. You bet it all, one last time. Oh no, it's down to $0, BIG FAT ZERO!
How much money have you lost? Most would say, $100,000. And they will be upset for a long time about it. Why? Because they LOST it, the LOSS was BIG! But some would say that it is OK. They have $10 less now, that's all. How big is the loss to them? $10? No big deal.
While many of us are very smart to get this and many of us will only call it $10 less in this example, that is not how we deal with it in the real life. And that is why the stress takes over.
Check right now to figure out why you are stressed and you will see that it is over some PERCEIVED loss (even though you are much better off than before). Use this Atlantic City example often for every LOSS and the stress will be gone every time.
You lose a sale. Call it one sale less
You lose your job. You didn't have it before. And you can get another with LESSER money anyhow.
You lose some salespeople in you office. You still have more than you started with.
You lose money in stock market. OK, OK, you got the point.
This applies to every scenario and you have a choice - is it LESS or LOSS?
Making sense? See it as a loss, and the stress will result into a disease. See it as less, and while the circumstances won't change, the outlook will and so will the results.
The change starts with self. So this story/lesson must be remembered by me too all the time :)).
Friday, July 30, 2010
The Best Painter!
Does anyone know who the best painter in the world is? Someone, whose paintings people copy (or try to and can't even come anywhere close) and sell them for millions, at times?
I am reminded of a short story I heard. This renowned painter was asked by the king to make a painting of the sunrise. To put as many details he could in it to make it look and feel real. The painter agreed. The king called him 3 months later and asked if the painting was ready. The painter replied "NO" and asked for 3 more months and 3 more. One year went by and the painter called the king to show him the painting. He asked the king to arrive at 4.30AM in his office next morning. The king wondered why that early, but wanted the painting so he agreed.
The king arrived sharply at 4.30 and the painter asked the king to accompany him. They walked for about 30 minutes or so. The darkness was slowly changing to light. Soon, the rays of rising sun could be seen and there, the red rising sun could be seen too. The painter looked at the king and said, "Sir, I have tried to paint the rising sun for one full year. I did my best but couldn't even come close to the real beauty it has to offer on its own. I couldn't compete with God's creation at all. I admit, I am not the best painter, HE is".
What a smart painter! He hit is right on the nail. We human beings take too much credit for our small actions and give little credit to God for HIS daily actions, without which, we would be nowhere. Infact, some of us don't even want to recognize HIM, forget giving HIM the credit.
Imagine for a moment:
No oxygen for 2 minutes. No gravitational force for 1 minute. No rain for a while. No sunlight for days. This list goes on and on.
But this is an external list. Now let's go within, and imagine again:
The heart stops beating. The blood stops flowing. The food doesn't get digested. This list is very long too.
God is the best painter, the best doctor, the best creator, best of best in everything. Anytime our ego makes us think otherwise, we need to remember HIM and realize that we don't even come close, infact we are way far!
THANK YOU GOD, for everything.
Sanjeev Aneja
www.sanjeevaneja.com
I am reminded of a short story I heard. This renowned painter was asked by the king to make a painting of the sunrise. To put as many details he could in it to make it look and feel real. The painter agreed. The king called him 3 months later and asked if the painting was ready. The painter replied "NO" and asked for 3 more months and 3 more. One year went by and the painter called the king to show him the painting. He asked the king to arrive at 4.30AM in his office next morning. The king wondered why that early, but wanted the painting so he agreed.
The king arrived sharply at 4.30 and the painter asked the king to accompany him. They walked for about 30 minutes or so. The darkness was slowly changing to light. Soon, the rays of rising sun could be seen and there, the red rising sun could be seen too. The painter looked at the king and said, "Sir, I have tried to paint the rising sun for one full year. I did my best but couldn't even come close to the real beauty it has to offer on its own. I couldn't compete with God's creation at all. I admit, I am not the best painter, HE is".
What a smart painter! He hit is right on the nail. We human beings take too much credit for our small actions and give little credit to God for HIS daily actions, without which, we would be nowhere. Infact, some of us don't even want to recognize HIM, forget giving HIM the credit.
Imagine for a moment:
No oxygen for 2 minutes. No gravitational force for 1 minute. No rain for a while. No sunlight for days. This list goes on and on.
But this is an external list. Now let's go within, and imagine again:
The heart stops beating. The blood stops flowing. The food doesn't get digested. This list is very long too.
God is the best painter, the best doctor, the best creator, best of best in everything. Anytime our ego makes us think otherwise, we need to remember HIM and realize that we don't even come close, infact we are way far!
THANK YOU GOD, for everything.
Sanjeev Aneja
www.sanjeevaneja.com
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Take the T out of Can'T
I read this beautiful small story that said it so well, so here it is. There is a chapter in my book "For It To Be, It's Up To Me" titled Take the T out of Can't. As soon as the T is out, Can't becomes Can. Let no one tell you it can't be done. Ofcourse, it is very possible that it may not get done at all anyhow, but starting with negativity will only make it impossible. Here's the story:
Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs who arranged a running competition. The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower. A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants. The race began.
Honestly, no one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as,
“Oh, WAY too difficult!!”
“They will NEVER make it to the top.”
“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”
The tiny frogs began collapsing, one by one, except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher.
The crowd continued to yell, "It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!" More tiny frogs got tired and gave up.
But ONE continued higher and higher and higher. This one wouldn’t give up! At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top! THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it? A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal? It turned out that the winner was DEAF!!!!
The wisdom of this story is - Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you — the ones you have in your heart! Always think of the power words have. Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!
Therefore -ALWAYS be POSITIVE! And above all, Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!
Always think - God and I can do this!
To The World You Might Be One Person; But To One Person You Might Be the World.
In the Walk of LIFE, do not worry of people moving ahead of You, take your time. But, once you are ready to run, make sure you are the BEST OF ALL.
Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs who arranged a running competition. The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower. A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants. The race began.
Honestly, no one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as,
“Oh, WAY too difficult!!”
“They will NEVER make it to the top.”
“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”
The tiny frogs began collapsing, one by one, except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher.
The crowd continued to yell, "It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!" More tiny frogs got tired and gave up.
But ONE continued higher and higher and higher. This one wouldn’t give up! At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top! THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it? A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal? It turned out that the winner was DEAF!!!!
The wisdom of this story is - Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you — the ones you have in your heart! Always think of the power words have. Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!
Therefore -ALWAYS be POSITIVE! And above all, Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!
Always think - God and I can do this!
To The World You Might Be One Person; But To One Person You Might Be the World.
In the Walk of LIFE, do not worry of people moving ahead of You, take your time. But, once you are ready to run, make sure you are the BEST OF ALL.
Friday, January 1, 2010
Our actions lead to our destiny or does our destiny inspire our actions? Part 1
It is a very common belief that our actions lead us to our results. As we sow, so shall we reap! And it sounds absolutely right too. After all, that is what we see day in and day out. We study well, we get good grades. We work, we earn. We think and act big, we achieve big! It all starts with us (atleast that is what we think). The billion dollar question is "Do we really create our destiny"?
Here are few thoughts to ponder. Add more as time goes by. And then see if you come to a different conclusion. Mind you here, this is a very different way of looking at things and if you come to a different conclusion, sharing with others will surely make them wonder if you have lost your mind. Infact, some may start thinking so about me. It's OK, this is not about me or you. This is a philosophical thought process, neither right nor wrong nor there to convince someone either way. It's there to give us another way of looking at things. Earth was always flat and the mere thought of it being round was ridiculous. But now tell someone that the earth is flat. Bring their attention to old books that said so and FIRMLY believed so and they will laugh at you. Here we go:
A child is born in a poor family with no food to eat and in a war torn area. What action of this child led to his destiny to be born there?
This child is adopted by a rich family and travels to USA. Was it the destiny of this child that led to the actions of the adopters or his action that created this opportunity?
A student is brilliant, tops in every class. Is riding his bike, is hit by a car and gets paralysed. Where did he go wrong? Did his destiny lead him to that spot? Were it not destiny, could that child have stayed at home?
As luck would have it, a doctor invents a medicine that works for this child and he returns to a normal life. Was it this child's action or the right timing of that medicine that created his destiny?
An employee is ready to go to work. She gets a phone call saying her mom is sick and she takes a day off. Within hours, she finds out that the building she would have been sitting in has been hit by a plane and all is over. Did her destiny save her or her actions?
A family plans a wonderful 1st class well deserved vacation. The plane crashes, all but one die. The one saved is fully disabled (or walks out unhurt). Actions to destiny or destiny to action?
Two children are born in a family. One succeeds beyond her expectations, other fails miserably. Surprisingly, the smarter one failed. Actions or destiny?
One day, you just want to be charitable. You donate a lot of money to help poor kids around the world. Their action? Their destiny?
But you say, well my action led to their destiny. There are so many poor children, why did only some get picked to be helped? Did you decide whose destiny you would change?
Three people start a business. One succeeds despite the circumstances, other 2 don't. Why?
Same person who is extremely successful once just can't seem to make it no matter how hard he tries. Why?
Did the actions change? Probably not. My guess would be the actions were even stronger, efforts even harder. So why those results?
Think of a movie/play. The script is already written by the director. The director decides who gets what role, how they act, and what the conclusion of each scene and the whole movie/play would be. Our life is like that too. We are mere actors in this movie called LIFE. God is the Director. He decides our role, and it's length. Infact it is all decided before we ever show up. Good news is, HE does give us some flexibility on how we act/play but that's it. If you think differently, look back at your life and circumstances. There are many things you would love to change in your past. There are many things you would have wanted to happen differently, including saving the lives of loved ones. Why didn't you control those things? Were they in your control then? Now? Anyhow?
This is not merely a one time reading thing. This is an everyday reflecting thing. And does this mean that we should stop acting? No, infact you can't stop unless that is what HE wants. He has given you a role to play. Don't forget HE is the Director. So next time, let your ego rest a bit. And also let your disappointments be set aside too. All results are already concluded and you will act accordingly, period (including accepting or rejecting this thought process).
We have all heard of being at the right place at the right time. Is there someone who creates the right time that leads us to our destiny? Who?
Accept HIS will & become stress free!
Comments welcome! More to continue in Part 2 (if that is what HE wants) :))
Sanjeev Aneja
http://www.sanjeevaneja.com/
Here are few thoughts to ponder. Add more as time goes by. And then see if you come to a different conclusion. Mind you here, this is a very different way of looking at things and if you come to a different conclusion, sharing with others will surely make them wonder if you have lost your mind. Infact, some may start thinking so about me. It's OK, this is not about me or you. This is a philosophical thought process, neither right nor wrong nor there to convince someone either way. It's there to give us another way of looking at things. Earth was always flat and the mere thought of it being round was ridiculous. But now tell someone that the earth is flat. Bring their attention to old books that said so and FIRMLY believed so and they will laugh at you. Here we go:
A child is born in a poor family with no food to eat and in a war torn area. What action of this child led to his destiny to be born there?
This child is adopted by a rich family and travels to USA. Was it the destiny of this child that led to the actions of the adopters or his action that created this opportunity?
A student is brilliant, tops in every class. Is riding his bike, is hit by a car and gets paralysed. Where did he go wrong? Did his destiny lead him to that spot? Were it not destiny, could that child have stayed at home?
As luck would have it, a doctor invents a medicine that works for this child and he returns to a normal life. Was it this child's action or the right timing of that medicine that created his destiny?
An employee is ready to go to work. She gets a phone call saying her mom is sick and she takes a day off. Within hours, she finds out that the building she would have been sitting in has been hit by a plane and all is over. Did her destiny save her or her actions?
A family plans a wonderful 1st class well deserved vacation. The plane crashes, all but one die. The one saved is fully disabled (or walks out unhurt). Actions to destiny or destiny to action?
Two children are born in a family. One succeeds beyond her expectations, other fails miserably. Surprisingly, the smarter one failed. Actions or destiny?
One day, you just want to be charitable. You donate a lot of money to help poor kids around the world. Their action? Their destiny?
But you say, well my action led to their destiny. There are so many poor children, why did only some get picked to be helped? Did you decide whose destiny you would change?
Three people start a business. One succeeds despite the circumstances, other 2 don't. Why?
Same person who is extremely successful once just can't seem to make it no matter how hard he tries. Why?
Did the actions change? Probably not. My guess would be the actions were even stronger, efforts even harder. So why those results?
Think of a movie/play. The script is already written by the director. The director decides who gets what role, how they act, and what the conclusion of each scene and the whole movie/play would be. Our life is like that too. We are mere actors in this movie called LIFE. God is the Director. He decides our role, and it's length. Infact it is all decided before we ever show up. Good news is, HE does give us some flexibility on how we act/play but that's it. If you think differently, look back at your life and circumstances. There are many things you would love to change in your past. There are many things you would have wanted to happen differently, including saving the lives of loved ones. Why didn't you control those things? Were they in your control then? Now? Anyhow?
This is not merely a one time reading thing. This is an everyday reflecting thing. And does this mean that we should stop acting? No, infact you can't stop unless that is what HE wants. He has given you a role to play. Don't forget HE is the Director. So next time, let your ego rest a bit. And also let your disappointments be set aside too. All results are already concluded and you will act accordingly, period (including accepting or rejecting this thought process).
We have all heard of being at the right place at the right time. Is there someone who creates the right time that leads us to our destiny? Who?
Accept HIS will & become stress free!
Comments welcome! More to continue in Part 2 (if that is what HE wants) :))
Sanjeev Aneja
http://www.sanjeevaneja.com/
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Leave Chinta (Worry), Grab Chintan (Worship)!
Try this (not for me), and feel the difference (for yourself & in yourself)!
Chinta, a Hindi word for Worry, is what engulfs us so often, for big things and small. But what does it really give us? A solution, absolutely not! Yes, it does give us stress, it gives us headaches, it gives us ulcers, and it gives us sleepless nights. And with all that, more worries come in. As we sow, so we reap. We sow worries, we reap worries, multiplied.
So what is the solution? This sounds very simple but, when put in practice, works miracles. Now, I know this is not for all as many will simply dismiss it instantly. But for those who will try it will feel the power and those who do so already can tell you about the results it delivers. The simple solution? Replace it with Chintan, a Hindi word for Worship.
Next time, when things don't go your way, try the alternate. Leave your worry on one side and start praying. Repeat HIS name (Krishna, Ram, Jesus, Allah, whoever you believe in). While I cannot tell you what the results will be for you (it's a different topic by itself), here is a promise. You will feel relaxed, you will free as if a burden is off your shoulders, you will sleep well!
One caution. If you have not practiced this before, it is possible (infact almost guaranteed) that you will keep worrying even while you are worshipping. And IT IS OK. Just keep worshipping. With time - for some in few hours, for others in few days, and yet others in months, you will be your best judge on how this impacted you positively.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain. So try it next time. Whenever worry bothers you, replace it with worship. Give yourself the gift that is irreplaceable. May God help you remember HIM when worry surrounds you or is even about to approach you!
Chinta, a Hindi word for Worry, is what engulfs us so often, for big things and small. But what does it really give us? A solution, absolutely not! Yes, it does give us stress, it gives us headaches, it gives us ulcers, and it gives us sleepless nights. And with all that, more worries come in. As we sow, so we reap. We sow worries, we reap worries, multiplied.
So what is the solution? This sounds very simple but, when put in practice, works miracles. Now, I know this is not for all as many will simply dismiss it instantly. But for those who will try it will feel the power and those who do so already can tell you about the results it delivers. The simple solution? Replace it with Chintan, a Hindi word for Worship.
Next time, when things don't go your way, try the alternate. Leave your worry on one side and start praying. Repeat HIS name (Krishna, Ram, Jesus, Allah, whoever you believe in). While I cannot tell you what the results will be for you (it's a different topic by itself), here is a promise. You will feel relaxed, you will free as if a burden is off your shoulders, you will sleep well!
One caution. If you have not practiced this before, it is possible (infact almost guaranteed) that you will keep worrying even while you are worshipping. And IT IS OK. Just keep worshipping. With time - for some in few hours, for others in few days, and yet others in months, you will be your best judge on how this impacted you positively.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain. So try it next time. Whenever worry bothers you, replace it with worship. Give yourself the gift that is irreplaceable. May God help you remember HIM when worry surrounds you or is even about to approach you!
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